This week's prompt, confrontation, is a tough one for me. Let me make this perfectly clear...
I hate confrontation!
I am no good at it so I try to avoid it at all cost. Some people are quite good at the art of confrontation, and it is, after all, an art form. Good confrontation requires -
1. complete knowledge of the reason for disagreement;
2. thick skin so that no matter how sharp your opponents
barbs get they bounce right off;
3. a degree in sarcasm and 4 letter words;
4. an ability to look stone-faced and tough, without any
sign of weakness;
5. the ability to meet it head-on, with no regrets.
I fail miserably in 4 out of 5 (and I'm not even sure I would always be successful in #1).
Okay, I admit...I'm a wimp. Even as a young person I always tried to be a people pleaser. I never wanted to disappoint anyone. I would rather have let someone walk all over me if it meant avoiding a confrontation. I'd like to say that I grew out of it, but, truth be told, I still have most of the same tendencies. I still don't like to disappoint anyone and will do anything I can to avoid confrontation. In some ways I am a little more outspoken than I used to be, but still not much of a fighter. I'll leave the fighting for those who enjoy it. As for me, I prefer to be a lover of all that is good and leave the fighting to the professionals.
Until next time...that's my view.
Kat
I gotcher back Buddy! Not everyone comes with the right wiring for confrontation, that's probably a good thing. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Jo, I knew I could count on you! ❤
ReplyDeleteI love it... I really DO have this one:
ReplyDelete" 3. a degree in sarcasm and 4 letter words;" hehehhe...
This was a great post Kat. I am not one who looks forward to confrontation, but I have been dressed well for the occasions when they arrive.
As I said, I avoid them at all cost and if actually faced with one tend to get very loud and cry alot.
DeleteI don't like to fight and when I'm angry I clam up. Confrontation is not my idea of fun.
ReplyDeleteI'm a clam too until pushed too far and then as I told k~ I tend to get very loud and cry. I'm really not very good at it.
DeleteI hate confrontation - and, the older I get, the more content I am to live and let live. Life's too short for quarrels!
ReplyDeleteI agree Paula, it does seem the older we get the more likely we are to let others do as they please. I think we finally realize we can't take on the problems of the world.
DeleteI hate drama, which is a big part of confrontation. I don't like it, but if needed I will bring my A game to the plate. I am pretty outspoken and tend to tell it just how it is pretty loudly. I have become a master of 1,3,4, and 5 but still have a little trouble with 2. Oh well, you can't have everything. Great post on this weeks topic.
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Don't misunderstand me Kathy. I hate it with a passion but will not run from it if pushed far enough. As a friend of mine is fond of saying, "Don't mistake my kindness for weakness." I could hold my own if provoked.
DeleteYou said it well. I do tend to try to keep the peace but if I'm pushed too far...well that's different and most likely caused by my lack in #2 which would bring out my mad skills in the rest ; )
ReplyDeleteThank you Mom. #2 is probably the one I am most lacking in. I've never had a very thick skin.
DeleteThis was great Kat. So honest. Confrontation? Yuck! Like Kelly said, I too, clam up.. Walk away if I can. I'm all about what's good, what's right..... :-)
ReplyDeleteThank you Daphne. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who tries to avoid it.
DeleteYes rather walk away. I think most people hate it. I avoid it like a plague too. But you sound a such a nice person.
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Yes, I agree most people are uncomfortable with it. Thank you for your kind words. I think you sound like a very nice person too.
DeleteI hate disappointing people too, but I don't mind confrontation. :p
ReplyDeleteGood for you! I wish I could be better at it!
DeleteKat, it take a special kind of strength to admit you're not always strong! I believe we don't have to respond to confrontation with confrontation. Disarming confrontation is an art form too. I think the world would be a lot better off if our leaders were better at it!
ReplyDeleteThat is very true Laurie! Maybe they should be required to take a class in peaceful confrontation.
DeleteI've always avoided confrontation, I learned it early from my parents. But, as I've gotten older, I do find myself being a bit more confrontational-mostly where defending my kids is concerned. People who are confrontational make me very uneasy.
ReplyDeleteI think any of us, even the most timid, can be confrontational when it comes to defending our kids. It's called maternal instinct. I get very uncomfortable around them too.
DeleteI'm not a fighter, either. I have to be REALLY pushed before I push back, but there is a point where I will, and have.
ReplyDeleteI think any of us will if pushed far enough. I'm more likely to fight back now than I was when I was young.
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